272 Deep Questions to Ask: A Guy, Girl, Friend, or Anyone
Want to get to know someone better? One way is to ask them deep questions. So here are some deep questions you can ask different people—people like your partner, friends, or whoever.
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Maybe you're trying to get to know someone better. Maybe you're trying to make conversations more interesting. Or maybe, you just want to improve your communication skills by asking deep questions. In this article, we'll give you a bunch of questions to ask the different people in your life. We'll cover deep questions that you can ask a guy, a girl, your girlfriend, boyfriend or long-term partner, your friends, your best friend, and yourself.
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What Are Deep Questions and Why Do They Matter?
Communication may just be the backbone of healthy relationships. But communication is more than just a tool we use to explore ourselves. It can also be used to build closer bonds with others. One way we can do this is by asking deep questions—questions that lead others to self-disclose to us. This is how we get to know who the other person is for real.
In perhaps one of the best-known studies on relationships, Art Aron showed that when two people asked each other increasingly deep questions over a 45-minute period, they felt closer than two people who had just engaged in chit-chat (Aron et al., 1997). Further research suggests that when others self-disclose personal information, we like them more (Sprecher, Treger, & Wondra, 2013). This may partially explain why deep questions increase closeness.
Deep Questions to Ask Someone
To start increasing closeness (or just get to know someone), here are the questions you can ask anyone from Dr. Aron's study (Aron et al., 1997). They increase in intensity from the beginning to the end.
More Deep Questions to Ask Anyone
In addition to Aron's 36 questions for closeness, here are some more questions you can ask anyone.
Deep Questions to Ask a Girl
You can ask girls and guys many of the same deep questions (as listed above), but I thought it might be helpful to also provide some additional deep questions you might want to ask a girl or guy. So here are some extra questions you might want to ask a girl.
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Deep Questions to Ask a Guy
Here are some extra questions you might want to ask a guy:
Deep Questions to Ask Your Partner (Boyfriend or Girlfriend)
When you're getting to know your relationship partner, there may be a number of questions to ask that can help you get closer to them and also understand them better. These questions may also help you determine whether they are a good fit for you in the long term.
A Few More Deep Questions Lists for Girls and Guys
Here are a few other good lists of deep questions to get to know your romantic partner better:
Deep Questions to Ask Friends
Maybe you're looking to get to know your friends better. Here are some questions that can help:
Deep Questions to Ask Your Best Friend
Sometimes there are those personal questions that you're just not comfortable asking anyone but your best friend. Here are a few of these extra-deep questions you might want to only ask your best closest friends:
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Deep Questions to Ask Yourself
Last but not least, you may want to ask yourself some deep questions to better get to know yourself. By asking ourselves deep questions we can uncover thoughts and beliefs we didn't even realize we had. So check out these questions you can use to get to know yourself better.
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Asking deep questions can be a great way to learn more about others, increase closeness between you, and have more interesting conversations. Hopefully, these lists of deep questions gave you a good place to start.