​What is Assertiveness?

What Is Assertiveness?

Assertiveness refers to your ability to stand up for yourself, speak up for others, and communicate your needs. Assertiveness involves being firm, but not hostile and using statements that represent your point of view without putting others down.

Why is it important to build this skill?

When you are assertive, other people know your boundaries. You ensure that the people in your life know when they have crossed the line and the consequences for doing so. This skill helps you build healthier relationships that are based on mutual respect, trust, and honesty. Although assertiveness can sometimes be uncomfortable, it's worth it to prevent your relationships from becoming unfair or unequal.

​Activities to develop this skill:

Positive Qualities

To accept and express yourself, it's important to remember all your great qualities. In this activity, you explore the positive aspects of your personality.

Assertiveness

For this activity, you are going to reflect a bit on your interpersonal style to make sure that you are relating to others in ways that are fair to you. In this activity, you learn the emotion skill, assertiveness, to better advocate for yourself.

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