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Inadequacy: Definition & Overcoming These Feelings

​By Tchiki Davis, MA, PhD
What does it mean to feel inadequate? From time to time many of us struggle with feelings of inadequacy. But there are things we can do—we’ll talk about those things here.
Inadequacy: Definition & Overcoming Feelings of Inadequacy
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Have you ever struggled to feel good about yourself? Do you wonder if you’re good enough? Do you question whether you're competent enough? Then you may be dealing with feelings of inadequacy. Feelings of inadequacy are normal and we all feel this way sometimes, but when we feel this way, we also likely desire to change these feelings. So, in this article, we’ll explore inadequacy in more detail and then focus on strategies that can help us overcome inadequacy and feel better about ourselves.
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What Is Inadequacy? (A Definition)

Inadequacy is defined as the condition of not being enough or not good enough. Feelings of inadequacy are when we feel we’re not good enough. These feelings generally have nothing to do with our actual performance or abilities in life. In fact, these feelings may have a lot more to do with low self-esteem or low self-confidence than any objective measure of ability or competence.

What is an inadequacy complex?
The American Psychological Association defines an inadequacy complex (more commonly known as an inferiority complex) as a feeling of inadequacy or insecurity coming from actual or imagined physical or psychological deficiencies. This feeling of being “less-than” or “inferior to” others can often cause us to shut down (withdraw) or act aggressively depending on our coping style and what helps us best manage these feelings. 

Keep in mind that we all feel inadequate to some extent. It’s not that some people have an inadequacy complex and others don’t. Rather, some of us just experience more inadequacy than others and we feel this to varying degrees (Heidbreder, 1927).

The opposite of inadequacy
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When we feel adequate, we feel like we have worth or value. We’re probably less likely to seek out validation from others because we already know we are okay the way we are. We also tend to have positive views about ourselves and feel good about who we are most of the time. As a  result of these positive self-views, we are also likely to be happier, more successful, and more popular (Crocker, & Knight, 2005).
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Personal Inadequacy Versus Social Inadequacy

There isn’t a super clear distinction between personal delinquency and social inadequacy but there are some subtle differences that might be helpful to explore. 

Personal inadequacy involves a general sense that we are not good enough—maybe we feel we can’t do things right, we aren't a good person, or we can’t succeed in our chosen profession. When it comes to personal inadequacy, other people may or may not be involved. For example, I might feel inadequate at my job, I might struggle to have confidence in my ability to manifest my dreams, or I might feel like I’m failing at adulting. This type of inadequacy can emerge in anything and everything we do.

Social inadequacy involves a feeling that we’re inept specifically in social situations or we are not good enough “in the eyes of others”. We may feel unable to approach the opposite sex and establish romantic relationships. We may feel like we don’t know how to carry a conversation. Or, we may even be anxious about calling a stranger on the phone because we don’t know what to say. In this case, we may be especially likely to feel shame about ourselves and fear rejection.
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What Are Feelings of Inadequacy?

Inadequacy is technically when we are not good enough. But we can feel inadequate regardless of whether we are inadequate. In fact, feelings of adequacy have very little to do with our actual competence or ability to execute a task. 

We can have these feelings in multiple areas of life such as the following:

Feelings of inadequacy at work
It can be common for us to have feelings of inadequacy at work. Numerous studies have shown that inadequacy is common in fields such as teaching and healthcare. If we feel inadequate at work, we might feel:
  • Incompetent
  • Unable to deal with difficult situations
  • Unable to live up to our professional standards
  • A sense of uncertainty
  • Powerlessness (Lindqvist, Weurlander, Wernerson, & Thornberg, 2017)
  • Imposter syndrome

Feelings of inadequacy in relationships
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Given how tenuous romantic relationships can be, it is not surprising that many of us feel inadequate in them. If we feel inadequate in our romantic relationships, we are likely to feel more jealous. We are more likely to question our romantic partner’s intentions, not because of them, but because we don’t feel good enough about ourselves (Karakurt, 2012).

When it comes to friendships, inadequacy has also been linked to hostility. Researchers suggest that our own sense of inadequacy can get projected onto others. When we feel inadequate and make others feel inadequate too, it can help dull the pain, at least temporarily (Cowan & Ullman, 2006).

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Feelings of Inadequacy Versus Feelings of Worthlessness

Feelings of inadequacy and feelings of worthlessness are largely overlapping concepts. Research often combines them or uses these terms interchangeably. 

Both of these feelings can include self-directed negative emotions such as guilt, shame, self-doubt, etc… And both of these feelings are linked to negative outcomes like depression (Zahn et al., 2015). 

People who feel inadequate, worthless, or generally have low self-esteem may also experience the following things:
  1. Withdrawn/shy/quiet
  2. Insecure
  3. Negative 
  4. Unhappy
  5. Angry/hostile
  6. Unmotivated (Guindon, 2002)

How to Deal With Feelings of Inadequacy

If you’re feeling inadequate about something in particular, there are a number of strategies that research shows can help you to feel better. These are:
  • Modify your expectations and ideals. If we’re constantly falling short of our expectations and ideals, it may be that we have unrealistic expectations of ourselves and what we can reasonably accomplish.
  • Seek help from others. Another way to resolve feelings of inadequacy is to get help on things you struggle with. If you don’t feel capable and you know someone who could teach you what you need to know, reaching out to them can be helpful.
  • Build skills and expertise. If you’re feeling inadequate in a particular task, take the time to build your skills. Over time, as you build self-efficacy, you’ll feel more competent and capable. No one is good at everything right away, so try not to get down on yourself for being a beginner at something (Lindqvist, Weurlander, Wernerson, & Thornberg, 2017). 

Implementing any of these strategies can help you feel more competent and comfortable in situations that produce inadequacy.
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How to Overcome Feelings of Inadequacy

Although some of us may feel inadequate only occasionally, others of us walk around in the world with a general feeling of inadequacy. Our feelings are not situation-based—our feelings are based on us. In this case, we hold negative opinions about ourselves or our abilities. This type of inadequacy can be a bit harder to overcome as it’s not based on the situation—it’s based on our thoughts about ourselves. To overcome this type of inadequacy may take more time and more work, but it’s not impossible.

In addition to building confidence, learning how to believe in yourself, and learning how to love yourself, here are some specific tips to overcome feelings of inadequacy. 
  • Cultivate emotion regulation skills. We often feel most inadequate in difficult situations (Lindqvist, Weurlander, Wernerson, & Thornberg, 2017). But, if we learn effective ways to regulate our emotions during these situations, they can be easier to manage and we’ll reduce negative emotions (negative emotions can actually impair our ability to make decisions and think clearly, which can fuel inadequacy).
  • Practice self-compassion. Regardless of how competent we are at a given task, we have value and are worthy of self-kindness. Practice showing yourself self-compassion and using loving-kindness meditation to grow your love for yourself and others.
  • Build a growth mindset. A growth mindset is when we believe we have the ability to grow and improve. This mindset helps us more easily overcome skill deficits. We know we can improve so we put more effort into improving ourselves. As a result, we can end up more skilled than we ever imagined.
  • Focus on your strengths. We all have strengths. By finding your strengths and capitalizing on them, you focus your attention more on what you’re good at than what you’re not good at. Plus, you can put your strengths to work and succeed in areas that rely on these strengths.

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Fear of Inadequacy

In addition to feeling inadequate, we can also have fear of feeling inadequate. We worry that we’re going to feel stupid. Or, we dread being embarrassed in front of our peers. This experience of having emotions about emotions is referred to as meta-emotion, and it’s not generally good for our well-being. 

So in addition to addressing our feelings of inadequacy and trying to manage them, we may also want to practice acceptance of inadequacy. If we accept that we’ll sometimes feel inadequate, then we’re less likely to fear it, and then the experience won't be as bad. Check out this article on acceptance to learn more.

Quotes To Overcome Inadequacy

If you’re striving to overcome inadequacy, sometimes a good quote can help inspire change and put you on the right path. So here are some quotes that may be helpful to you.
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  • “Remember, you alone get to choose what matters and what doesn’t. The meaning of everything in your life has precisely the meaning you give it.” —Marcandangel
  • “Be proud of who you are, and not ashamed of how someone else sees you.” —Unknown
  • “Release what you can’t control.” —Unknown
  • “Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we’ll ever do.” —Brene Brown
  • “Be yourself. An original is so much better than a copy.” —Unknown
  • “What would you do if you weren’t afraid?” —Unknown
  • “No amount of guilt can change the past. No amount of anxiety can change the future.” —Gemmaetc
  • “Worrying doesn’t take away tomorrow's troubles. It takes away today’s peace.” —Bestoflife
  • “The most terrifying thing is to accept oneself completely.” —Carl Gustav Jung
  • “How you love yourself is how you teach others to love you.” —Rupi Kaur
  • “We accept the love we think we deserve.” —Stephen Chbosky
  • “Keep watering yourself. You’re growing.” —E.Russell
  • “You are allowed to be both a masterpiece and a work in progress simultaneously.” —Sophia Bush
  • “You’re always with yourself, so you might as well enjoy the company.” —Diane von Furstenberg

More Articles Related to Inadequacy

If you want to keep learning strategies to overcome inadequacy, here are a few more good articles to check out.
  • Loving Yourself: Why and How to Love Yourself
  • Self-Care: Definition, Ideas, Tips, & Activities to Take Care of Yourself
  • How to Be More Confident: 15 Science-Based Tips, Exercises, & Confidence-Boosters​
  • ​Guilt: Definition, Types, & Differences Versus Shame
  • ​Projection: Definition (In Psychology) & Related Defense Mechanisms

Books Related to Inadequacy

Here are some books to explore if you want to keep building the skills needed to overcome inadequacy.
  • Suffering Is Optional: A Spiritual Guide to Freedom from Self-Judgment and Feelings of Inadequacy
  • Love Yourself First!: Boost Your Self-Esteem in 30 Days: Change Your Habits, Change Your Life
  • How to Be an Imperfectionist: The New Way to Self-Acceptance, Fearless Living, and Freedom from Perfectionism​​

Final Thoughts on Inadequacy

It’s totally normal to feel inadequate from time to time. If we work at it, we can reduce the amount of time we spend feeling this way and we can leave more room for personal growth, confidence, and enjoyment. Hopefully, the strategies presented here will provide some guidance that will put you on the path to greater self-love and self-worth.

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References

  • Cowan, G., & Ullman, J. B. (2006). Ingroup rejection among women: The role of personal inadequacy. Psychology of Women Quarterly, 30(4), 399-409.
  • ​Crocker, J., & Knight, K. M. (2005). Contingencies of self-worth. Current directions in psychological science, 14(4), 200-203.
  • Guindon, M. H. (2002). Toward Accountability in the Use of the Self‐Esteem Construct. Journal of Counseling & Development, 80(2), 204-214.
  • Heidbreder, E. F. (1927). The normal inferiority complex. The Journal of Abnormal and Social Psychology, 22(3), 243.
  • Karakurt, G. (2012). The interplay between self esteem, feeling of inadequacy, dependency, and romantic jealousy as a function of attachment processes among Turkish college students. Contemporary Family Therapy, 34(3), 334-345.
  • Lindqvist, H., Weurlander, M., Wernerson, A., & Thornberg, R. (2017). Resolving feelings of professional inadequacy: Student teachers’ coping with distressful situations. Teaching and Teacher Education, 64, 270-279.
  • Zahn, R., Lythe, K. E., Gethin, J. A., Green, S., Deakin, J. F. W., Young, A. H., & Moll, J. (2015). The role of self-blame and worthlessness in the psychopathology of major depressive disorder. Journal of affective disorders, 186, 337-341.​​
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