What is Non-Judgement?
Emotional judgement refers to the tendency to have secondary (or meta-emotional) thoughts or emotions about the original emotion. For example, you may get angry about something and then start feeling guilt for feeling angry. When this happens, it is really your judgment of the original anger emotion as being bad in some way that leads to the rise of the guilt. When you are non-judgemental, you unconditionally accept your emotions and we don’t judge yourself for having those emotions.
Why is it important to build this skill?
The ability to accept your emotions and not make negative judgments about yourself or your feelings prevents a lot of excess negative emotions from emerging. Everyone has a right to his or her feelings. Feelings do not give us the right to lash out at others, but we are allowed and should not feel bad about having emotions. Emotions serve important functions and arise naturally. Judging them just waists vital energy.
Activities to develop this skill:
About Dr. Tchiki Davis
Dr. Davis is founder of The Berkeley Well-Being Institute. After getting her PhD in psychology at Berkeley, she started creating online content & programs to boost well-being—some of these have reached more than a million people. As author of Outsmart Your Smartphone, and contributor to Psychology Today, The Greater Good Science Center, and Shine Text, Dr. Davis aims to share her insights on happiness & health with people all across the world. Learn more about Dr. Davis.