What are your strengths? Find out from your friends
By Tchiki Davis, Ph.D.
One of the key tenants of positive psychology is an emphasis on strengths rather than weaknesses. In recent years, the focus on "strengths" has gained scientific support with positive psychology interventions that included building character strengths now having been shown to reduce depression and increase happiness.
Given the benefits of knowing your strengths, you'll find that many articles and resources will tell you to figure out yours strengths so you can capitalize on them. This may be a good tip. But it's easier said than done. How are we supposed to know what our strengths even are?One of my main complaints with positive psychology is that we are always been told what to do without being told how to do it. Luckily, now there is an online tool that can help.
What are your strengths?
How strong are your strengths really?
In addition to helping you identify your strengths, At My Best helps you figure out: what are your strongest strengths?
What separates At My Best from some other tools I've seen is that this tool lets you collect responses from your friends and family. This might not seem necessary, but research shows that we have some major blind spots when it comes to evaluating ourselves. Others may actually know aspects of our personality better than we do. When we are really good at something, we don't realize it is something that is hard for everyone else. This can result in us not seeing some of our most important strengths.
When we ask our friends, family, and colleagues to help us identify our strengths, they can open our eyes to strengths we never even knew we had.
Even more useful, I think, is that At My Best lets you view your 'strengths cloud'. The more people that describe you using a word, the bigger the word appears in the cloud. This visual representation tells you how strong each of your strengths are. In my strengths cloud (above), you can see that my strongest strengths are Determined and Independent. Knowing my strongest strengths helps me better capitalize on them, and knowing the strengths I may not use so often helps me identify opportunities for growth.
How can you capitalize on your strengths?
One of the things that differentiates At My Best from other tools is that it helps you gather together the stories of you at your best. When you look through the comments you discover why friends, family, or colleagues have picked out certain strengths for you, which makes it much more impactful than an automated generic report might be.
The personalized nature of the tool helps you to take ownership of your strengths and encourages you to reflect on how you can make best use of them, but there are no tailored recommendations for the next steps you should take. Instead, At My Best encourages you to find your own way to apply the lessons that come out of the experience.
To truly make the most of the feedback you receive, I’d recommend that you take time to explore the outputs and consider the implications by talking it through with someone. That might be a professional coach or a trusted friend or colleague.
The future of strength building
With the development of a great new tool for identifying strengths, I hope next steps include developing supporting tools to help people to build new strengths and capitalize on the strengths they already have.
What are your strenths?
Try out At My Best for yourself with the free self-reflection tool.
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